Building Confidence

What made me to write this as my first post is the podcast that I've listened recently. The podcast psychologically discusses on the ways one can keep himself self-confident. Despite what has been mentioned in this podcast, the main question that is arisen is if you need to boost your self-confidence? and if yes, how it should be done?
It is very important to have the best impression on the people around us. In all situations, say dating, giving speech and engaging with neighbors, being self-confident helps you to get more benefits from your affairs. But, is it actually possible to boost your self-confidence? In fact, self-confidence is neither an instinct characteristic, nor a learned attribute. All you should do is to change your mind. If you are not nice, cute, tall enough, etc, you can be extremely self-self-confident, instead. Only having control on your works and handling your job as good as it should be is not enough for being self-confident. So, how you can improve your self-confidence? Four ways are suggested:

The first important method is to have visualization. Imagine that you are performing the best. So you can put yourself in the situation of self-confident.

The second method is to speak self-confidently. Try to project yourself externally as strong as you can. Use Self-confidence Language. For example say "absolutely", "definitely", "yes", "sure", "no problem" instead of "hopefully", "may be", "probably". This also helps you put yourself in the status of self-confidence.

The third way that makes you be self-confident is similar to second method. In this way, try to keep yourself in suitable physical appearance. On the other hand keep moving self-confidently. Physical appearance indicates mental status. For example breathe deeply, keep your shoulders top and walk strongly. Put your body in the status of feeling self-confidence. It helps to create an emotional feeling in the inside. Be relaxed, smile and have a right body configuration.

As the last method, use some sort of external stimuli to put yourself in the status of self-confidence. Use some kind of external actuators to trigger the feeling of self-confidence. Music, memorizing previous successes and observing photos that reminds you of good memories help you to put yourself in self-confidence status.

The first three methods use body consciously to create the status of self-confidence, while the last acts as mental trigger that puts you in the state of feeling self-confidence. For more information refer to the podcast.

Until next time live consciously.